Wisdom for Complicated Times

Wisdom for Complicated Times

*From Reverend Joan Halifax of the Upaya Zen Center, although I believe in my heart that all times in human history have been complicated, the present is all we have, and know – and yes, it’s a challenging, hot mess. Rev. Halifax’s wiki page is below. I gasped when I saw she spent time at Feathered Pipe Ranch in the 70s, where I spent time in the 80s and 90s, because – gasp!! – it’s a small world, even if it is complex.

In these complicated times, we have plenty of opportunities to transform moral suffering into moral resilience, what ethicist Cynda Rushton defines as “the capacity of an individual to sustain or restore their integrity in response to moral complexity, confusion, distress, or setbacks.” When we have moral resilience, we are able to stand strong in our integrity, even in the midst of moral adversity.

There is a Japanese practice called kintsukuroi, meaning “golden repair.” Kintsukuroi is the art of repairing broken pottery with powdered gold or platinum mixed with lacquer, so that the repair reflects the history of breakage. The “repaired” object mirrors the fragility, imperfection, and beauty of life—and also its strength. The object returns to wholeness, to integrity.

I am not suggesting that we should seek brokenness as a way of gaining strength, although some cultures do pursue crisis in their rites of passage as a way to strengthen character and open the heart. Rather, I am proposing that the wounds and harms that arise from falling over the edge into moral suffering can have positive value under the right circumstances. Moral distress, the pain of moral injury and outrage, and even the numbness of moral apathy can be the means for the “golden repair,” for developing a greater capacity to stand firm in our integrity without being swayed by the wind.

Over my years of traveling to Japan, I have held several of these exquisitely repaired vessels in my hands. I have seen that the “golden repair” is not a hidden repair. It shows clearly the cracked and broken nature of our lives. It combines ordinary stuff and precious metals to repair the crack but not hide it. This, I believe, is how moral transformation happens and integrity opens—not by rejecting suffering but by incorporating the suffering into a stronger material, the material of goodness, so that the broken parts of our nature, our society, and our world can meet in the gold of wholeness.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Joan_Halifax

From Parable of the Talents

From Parable of the Talents

*Octavia E. Butler, 1998 – and I will leave it at that, because it speaks loudly for itself.

Choose your leaders

with wisdom and forethought.

To be led by a coward

is to be controlled

by all that the coward fears.

To be led by a fool

is to be led

by the opportunists

who control the fool.

To be led by a thief

is to offer up

your most precious treasures

to be stolen.

To be led by a liar

is to ask

to be told lies.

To be led by a tyrant

is to sell yourself

and those you love

into slavery.

Save Us from the Save Act 

Save Us from the Save Act 

The SAVE Act Would Disenfranchise Millions of Citizens

*From The Center for American Progress, authors: Sydney Bryant and Greta Bedekovics, for the complete article and methodology re: its content, a link is posted at the article’s end. When GQP influencers like Ben Shapiro and Charlie Kirkkk publicly state that in an ideal world they would end women’s right to vote, believe them, and understand that soon their fringe views will shortly be showing up in the mainstream of that deeply misogynistic and racist party. Call your reps – daily, this app makes it easy peasy…https://5calls.org

The Safeguard American Voter Eligibility (SAVE) Act has been reintroduced in the U.S. House of Representatives. This legislation would require all Americans to prove their citizenship status by presenting documentation—in person—when registering to vote or updating their voter registration information. Specifically, the legislation would require the vast majority of Americans to rely on a passport or birth certificate to prove their citizenship. While this may sound easy for many Americans, the reality is that more than 140 million American citizens do not possess a passport and as many as 69 million women who have taken their spouse’s name do not have a birth certificate matching their legal name.

Because documentation would need to be presented in person, the legislation would, in practice, prevent Americans from being able to register to vote by mail; end voter registration drives nationwide; and eliminate online voter registration overnight—a services 42 state rely on. Americans would need to appear in person, with original documentation, to even simply update their voter registration information for a change of address or change in party affiliation. These impacts alone would set voter registration sophistication and technology back by decades and would be unworkable for millions of Americans, including more than 60 million people who live in rural areas. Additionally, driver’s licenses—including REAL IDs—as well military or tribal IDs would not be sufficient forms of documentation to prove citizenship under the legislation

In short, the SAVE Act is disastrous legislation that would drastically alter the way every American citizen registers to vote. The legislation completely disregards the resources available to most Americans as well as the reality of American women’s lives. Despite these overwhelming facts and the real possibility that millions of Americans—Republicans, Democrats, and independents—could be disenfranchised, leadership in the U.S. House of Representatives has declared that passing the legislation is one of their top priorities for the 119th Congress.

Federal Law already clearly states that it is illegal for non-U.S. citizens to register to vote or cast a ballot in federal elections. It’s an existing crime that is punishable by up to five years in prison.

election officials also already use state and federal data – including citizenship data from the U.S> Department of Homeland Security and Social Security Administration —to verify an individual’s eligibility to cast a ballot. What the SAVE Act would do is invert the responsibility to verify a person’s eligibility and citizenship status from election officials and the government onto American citizens.

It’s also critical to note that there are already documentation requirements to be able to register to vote. As required by Federal Law Americans must provide either the last four digits of their Social Security number or their driver’s license number on a voter registration application in order to provide election officials with the necessary information to verify their identity and voting eligibility. The SAVE Act seeks to upend this process and turn a relatively well-oiled system—where officials are tasked with the work of verification—and, instead, make every single American citizen put in the work, time, and resources to exercise their constitutional right to vote and convince the government that they’re eligible.

In addition to setting voter registration back to the pre-internet era, the SAVE Act threatens the constitutional rights of American citizens, as tens of millions of citizens do not possess the documentation required under the bill.

According to statements and data by the U.S. Department of State, approximately only half of American citizens possess a passport. This means that half of all American citizens would not be able to provide one of the primary acceptable forms of documentation that would be required to register to vote under the SAVE Act.

Nationwide, approximately 146 million American citizens do not possess a passport. To put that number into perspective, 153 million Americans cast a ballot in the 2024 presidential general election.

In seven states, less than one-third of citizens have a valid passport: West Virginia, Mississippi, Alabama, Arkansas, Kentucky, Louisiana, and Oklahoma. And only in four states do more than two-thirds of the citizens have a valid passport: New York, Massachusetts, California, and New Jersey. In West Virginia, the state with the lowest rate of citizen passport possession, only about 1 in 5 citizens—or 20.7 percent—possess this documentation. Conversely, New Jersey has the highest rate of citizen passport possession, with 4 in 5 citizens—or 80 percent—possessing a valid passport.

Overall, data shows that high rates of passport ownership are predominantly concentrated in blue states, while low rates of passport ownership are overwhelmingly concentrated in red states. This means that, under the SAVE Act, it would be disproportionately more difficult for American citizens in red states to present one of the primary forms of documentation required to register to vote—and they would be disproportionately disenfranchised if the bill became law.

Additionally, Americans who have completed less education as well as Americans with lower incomes are far less likely to have a passport than Americans with higher levels of education or higher income levels. Among Americans whose highest level of education is a high school degree or less, approximately in in 4 have a valid passport. Among Americans with a household income below $50,000, only 1 in 5 have a valid passport. The policies in the SAVE Act are a serious socioeconomic issue that would disproportionately impact the voting rights of working-class and lower-income Americans.

While the vast majority of Americans have a birth certificate, tens of millions of married women could not present their birth certificate as proof of citizenship under the SAVE Act, as it does not display their current legal name.

A survey from the Pew Research Center found that 79 percent of American women married to men have taken their spouse’s name. When women who have hyphenated their surname are also accounted for, 84 percent of American women have changed their surname.

Nationwide, approximately 69 million women could not use their birth certificate to prove their identity or citizenship status under the SAVE Act. Additionally, 5 percent of married men have also changed their surname, accounting for approximately 4 million men nationwide who could also not present an acceptable birth certificate under the SAVE Act. The legislation does not mention the potential option for these Americans to present change-of-name documentation or a marriage certificate in combination with a birth certificate to prove their citizenship. This shows yet another area in which the legislation makes no attempts to ensure that citizens’ voting rights are protected. Seemingly, the SAVE Act would rather err on the side of disenfranchisement.

The same Pew survey found that the two groups of women most likely to take their spouse’s name were conservative Republican women and Republican/Republican-leaning women, while the two least-likely groups were liberal Democratic women and Democratic/Democratic-leaning women. In fact, Democratic and Democratic-leaning women are twice as likely as Republican and Republican-leaning women to have kept their maiden name, with only 7 percent of conservative Republican women reporting that they kept their last name. So while the legislation would unfairly disenfranchise women as a whole, the requirement to present a birth certificate would disproportionately disenfranchise conservative and Republican women.

While the SAVE Act does not directly aim to deny millions of American women the right to vote, it certainly does not treat their right vote as sacred and remains ignorant to the fact that requirements of the legislation threaten to infringe on the voting rights of millions of Republican, Democratic, and independent women across the country. As with numerous pieces of federal legislation and policy, the impacts on women are an afterthought and their rights are viewed as inconsequential.

Congress has a pivotal constitutional responsibility in ensuring that all citizens can exercise their right to vote in a secure and accessible manner. Many Americans have continued to voice concerns regarding election integrity, and elected representatives should be responsive to these concerns in a manner that ensures the ballot box remains accessible for the citizens they represent. As written, the SAVE Act is irresponsible and dangerous legislation that threatens to disenfranchise millions of American citizens—Republicans, Democrats, and independents alike.

The only Americans who stand to benefit from the SAVE Act are out-of-touch politicians willing to trample on the rights of millions of citizens, including their own constituents, in order to score a few political points with the media and the administration.

Don’t Shoot the Messenger

Don’t Shoot the Messenger

“Shooting the messenger” or “killing the messenger” or in any way blaming the bearer of bad news is a metaphoric (we hope) phrase used to describe the act of blaming the bearer or bringer of bad tidings, despite the messenger having no direct responsibility for the bad news – or for the bad thing/event/etc. that happened being, after all, JUST THE MESSENGER.

Studying this phrase seems apt in the age of Dumpster Fire as he surrounds himself with ass-kissing good news bearers, only – but the idea of killing the messenger first appears in Plutarch’s (49 ish – 119 A.D.) Lives “The first messenger, that gave notice of Lucullus’ coming was so far from pleasing Tigranes that he had his head cut off for his pains, and no man dared to bring further information. Without any intelligence at all, Tigranes sat while war was already blazing around him, giving ear only to those who flattered him.” Sound familiar?

But why am I researching the phrase, versions of which are used twice by the great Will Shakespeare (Anthony & Cleopatra and Henry IV, pt. 2)? Well, I’ll tell ya. Someone I know unfriended me on Fakebook, which I noticed about a year ago and let go of – doing nothing – because she’s 30 years younger than I am, we don’t socialize in real life, and while I like her and her husband – y’know what? Fuck it. Social media ‘friendships’ or ‘followings’ are not real, or real life, and if I have offended her in some way, them’s the breaks! And then, in the process of paying my tax bill, there she was, working behind the counter, a recent hire as deputy town clerk. I congratulated her on her new job and we chatted for a brief moment about that, and then – because why not – I said, “So, A_______, I noticed months ago that you unfriended me on social media, why was that?”

Well, she was upset because when Mr. T___________ died I revealed in this blog that he had sexually assaulted me the summer after I graduated high school, along with grooming a handful or more of other female children while working as a vocal music instructor at our mutual alma mater, and that really bothered her.

Huh? What?

Saying something bad about him after he died! It’s just wrong, unfair, and very upsetting.

Imagine how I felt, A___________, when that fat brotherfcker rolled over on top of me in his low slung auto – and in my parents’ driveway, no less, Mr. Respectably Married Man whose wife was also my teacher, who was a customer of my father, who went to my church, who was a colleague of my mother, who manipulated me into accepting a ride that night – a ride my mom insisted I accept because there was an energy crisis on and – well – y’know!! I was safe with him, right? Uh, no. Yes, imagine that, A_______________, you young, self-righteous mother of two young daughters.

But I didn’t say that.

Instead I said “Hey, I admit he did a lot of good things for the community during his life and tenure at the school, and that lots of people loved him. I did not.

I also didn’t say the following because we were in a public place and no one, no one wants to talk about this shit, including me but in case you didn’t know, A_________, it’s called grooming, that public facing bullshit niceness and good guyness! Because the truth is, he wasn’t nice, he used his position in that school and in the community to groom more than one female CHILD AND TAUGHT SUBSEQUENT GROOMING PREDATORS BY EXAMPLE, and because of that, the sexual abuse of female children at our mutual alma mater went on for another 40-fucking-years.

I did say, “I’m sorry you’re upset, A________________. But it happened.” And then I left. I left and felt myself getting angrier and angrier because – wtf?! I get assaulted at 18 by not just one but two of my recent high school teachers, it takes me years to come clean about it, and heal (still working on it, quite frankly) – yet – you’re upset I disrespected that fcker in a blog after he died? LOL. It felt like, in those first moments after I left town hall, that I was being punished yet again for what he did. Because I was.

Deep breaths.

Women and girls are never just the messengers when we tell on male perpetrators. We are perpetrators, too – by upsetting the dominant group (white men), and their many, many fans. We are hurting others by making people re-think or reconsider their heroes, forcing them to face the unpleasant reality of life’s messiness and the shitty nature of many men (oh, not all men – but always men) in our lives and culture. I’m still angry at her. Blaming me, punishing me because my timing wasn’t right on exposing that POS in her limited view? Puh-leeze.

That is, however, how the patriarchy works. It’s designed to protect and elevate male needs, including their need to seem like good guys, always, no matter how shitty they actually are or were, and it’s working as designed, almost all the fucking time.

PSA: What Is DEI?

PSA: What Is DEI?

DIVERSITY, EQUITY AND INCLUSION. But what is that or does that mean, other than a boogie man created by reactionary assholes at Faux News and etc. meant to scare white people? Well, here is a very basic list of what it means or how it works, with a tiny little few items of what DEI ain’t at the very bottom of the list. Pls feel free to share widely.

Some of what DEI ackshully is:

-ramps and sidewalk curb cuts for wheelchair access, or for those who are otherwise mobility challenged

-subtitles & captions (TV & phone)

-family restrooms/changing rooms

-changing tables in men’s restrooms

-breast feeding/pumping stations & accommodations

-floating paid holidays

-pay equity & transparency

-parental leave (time & pay)

-coming back to a job after birthing a child

-not having to just accept workplace harassment

-work accommodations for a variety of disabilities

-flexible work arrangements

-size inclusive chairs and beds in medical facilities

-belt extenders on planes

-various food options for vegetarians/vegans/kosher/gluten-free/etc at medical facilities

-non smoking areas/end of smoking indoors

-being able to have medical professionals and your coworkers use your preferred name (not just queer people have those)

-wellness programs and incentives

-more relaxed & inclusive dress code policies

-rooms to pray/meditate at work & other public places

-employee recognition programs

-employee/network resource groups

-large print materials

-materials in different languages

-multiple religious options at hospitals

-accessible bikes and public transit accommodations

-businesses not becoming fully cashless

-company-covered mental/behavioral health resources

Some of What DEI IS NOT:

-hiring an under qualified person for a job just because they’re a person of color, or female, or disabled

-hiring based on race just to meet diversity goals (this is illegal)

-a new fad or buzz word. DEI work has been going on for many many years, under different names